From I was very young I recall pet dogs about the house: Sisco, Master McGrath or whatever name my father chose to gave them, they were a regular enough feature. Nor did any of them have to be trained to bark at British soldiers. Like many Belfast dogs they seemed to have an instinctive dislike for aggressive foreigners.

On my first short stay at home in 1989, on a 3 day temporary release after thirteen and a half years in prison, I was introduced to Caesar, my mother’s pet dog. During the work out scheme it was often dog out day, with me taking him for ten mile walks. When I made it home for good I had a succession of dogs, Cu, Trimble and Rhonda. Now we have Cleo who nominally belongs to my daughter but is in fact the constant companion of my son. 
From childhood I recall reading the book Old Yeller by Fred Gipson. In prison it was Cujo by Stephen King, Watchers by Dean R Koontz, or Fluke by James Herbert. So, in one sense or another I have been dogged by the canine. 

For many years I was familiar with the name Swiper from the Dora The Explorer TV kids programme. My daughter was an avid viewer so I go to know all the characters as well. There wasn’t much choice with Dora being compulsory viewing in our house. So when I first made the acquaintance of a real Swiper, an Irish Red Setter, there was something alluring to it.

He belonged to my friend, so most weekends would see us heading off in the car, Swiper and Cleo safely ensconced in the boot as we made our way to the racecourse or occasionally the beach where the dogs would soon be in their element. They bonded and teamed up as a pack. Their noses took them everywhere including places no human nose would touch. Cleo was quicker but Swiper was cuter. When I would show the dog treats he would let Cleo run off for the first one and do the work, knowing that the second would be virtually hand fed to him. 

When my friend told me one Monday morning that Swiper had died quite unexpectedly at the weekend there was a palpable feeling of loss. I never thought of Swiper from one walk to the next but once he died I realised how much a part of our weekends he actually was. He was the fourth corner of our weekend rambling square and he is missed. As my friend is inclined to point out to me there is so much to be learned about our human life from merely observing animals as they go about their own. 

When I told my son of Swiper’s passing he cried for a long time, making me half regret that I had shared the knowledge with him. But he would have found out anyway and things like this are always helpful for getting children to understand death, the sure grim finality of it, that present life is not a practice run for some other. The need to treat life responsibly is pressed home.  

We have replaced Swiper with another red setter; this one is called Copper because of his colour rather than the fact that he has any association with peelers. Had it been the latter we could just have called him Pig. On Sunday we hit the beach with the two of them. It will take a while yet before they bond but they shall. It will be even longer before the bond we had with Swiper will fade.  His memory will not be swiped away that quick.

Swiper The Dog

From I was very young I recall pet dogs about the house: Sisco, Master McGrath or whatever name my father chose to gave them, they were a regular enough feature. Nor did any of them have to be trained to bark at British soldiers. Like many Belfast dogs they seemed to have an instinctive dislike for aggressive foreigners.

On my first short stay at home in 1989, on a 3 day temporary release after thirteen and a half years in prison, I was introduced to Caesar, my mother’s pet dog. During the work out scheme it was often dog out day, with me taking him for ten mile walks. When I made it home for good I had a succession of dogs, Cu, Trimble and Rhonda. Now we have Cleo who nominally belongs to my daughter but is in fact the constant companion of my son. 
From childhood I recall reading the book Old Yeller by Fred Gipson. In prison it was Cujo by Stephen King, Watchers by Dean R Koontz, or Fluke by James Herbert. So, in one sense or another I have been dogged by the canine. 

For many years I was familiar with the name Swiper from the Dora The Explorer TV kids programme. My daughter was an avid viewer so I go to know all the characters as well. There wasn’t much choice with Dora being compulsory viewing in our house. So when I first made the acquaintance of a real Swiper, an Irish Red Setter, there was something alluring to it.

He belonged to my friend, so most weekends would see us heading off in the car, Swiper and Cleo safely ensconced in the boot as we made our way to the racecourse or occasionally the beach where the dogs would soon be in their element. They bonded and teamed up as a pack. Their noses took them everywhere including places no human nose would touch. Cleo was quicker but Swiper was cuter. When I would show the dog treats he would let Cleo run off for the first one and do the work, knowing that the second would be virtually hand fed to him. 

When my friend told me one Monday morning that Swiper had died quite unexpectedly at the weekend there was a palpable feeling of loss. I never thought of Swiper from one walk to the next but once he died I realised how much a part of our weekends he actually was. He was the fourth corner of our weekend rambling square and he is missed. As my friend is inclined to point out to me there is so much to be learned about our human life from merely observing animals as they go about their own. 

When I told my son of Swiper’s passing he cried for a long time, making me half regret that I had shared the knowledge with him. But he would have found out anyway and things like this are always helpful for getting children to understand death, the sure grim finality of it, that present life is not a practice run for some other. The need to treat life responsibly is pressed home.  

We have replaced Swiper with another red setter; this one is called Copper because of his colour rather than the fact that he has any association with peelers. Had it been the latter we could just have called him Pig. On Sunday we hit the beach with the two of them. It will take a while yet before they bond but they shall. It will be even longer before the bond we had with Swiper will fade.  His memory will not be swiped away that quick.

30 comments:

  1. I too have been fortunate enough to be surrounded by dogs and cats for a forever time.
    I just think home is not quite home without them even though the cat shreds the sofa and the dog is forever running away with my shoes.
    Trustworthy and loyal, apart from a few I have known I don't think people quite match up.

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  2. Intimate, sentimental, a bit of humour and existential truth.

    Thanks Anthony, an enjoyable read.

    (Touch of Michael Harding's style in there)

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  3. Topical for us here, we are bonding our new pup with the one we left with a neighbour before our Asian misadventure. Thankfully they seem to be bonding well. Agree Fionnuala, they make a house a home.

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  4. Do you not think that your indoctrination of your son to show intolerance to all things religious kind of pissed down on that story from a great height?
    Hoping that a child understands the finality of life after being told that a favorite pet has died is very cold....it's time to move on and get over the God particle debate...some believe and some don't....the constant need to remind us all that there is no God is very tiring and wearing thin...
    I tell my kids all the time that the Dark Hughes is a false idol and their response is very re-assuring...who's he and can we watch SpongeBob now?!?!?!?!?

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  5. Niall,

    that would be a skewed reading of it. He is taught to respect diversity and to be tolerant in a way that he would be likely to learn were he religious.

    Rather than coldness he is the recipient of great warmth although I am not sure a religious mind would grasp that.

    My child is taught to treat this life as the only one he has and to protect it most strongly while showing a similar respect to the lives of others.

    I sort of think that is one of my better parenting skills.

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  6. Mackers,
    I'm not trying here to dictate to you how to raise your children, God forbid...sorry, wrong turn of phrase!
    I thought that it was a cold remark to make at such an emotional time and totally uncalled for. At the end of the day, does it really matter that a child should be made to understand the finality of life on such an emotional occasion after all, they are just that, a child! And besides all that, it ruined the fuck'n story!!!!!

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  7. Niall,

    perhaps it ruined it for you but then it wasn't written for you. It was written for me. It doesn't seem to have ruined it for others.

    I don't know what you teach your children but I teach mine that there is no after life so they better watch carefully the only life they have and not to take a chance with it. Seems a perfectly reasonable approach to take.

    Last week, leaving my son across the road, he saw the bus approach from the left and bolted for it without looking to the right. I snatched him back from the path of a car. It shook me and I took the opportunity to talk to him over the next few days about the ony life he has and the need to be careful.

    I think it is a good thing to teach our children some cold realities and do it in a manner that is not cold. Neither of mine believe in a god which just means they only believe in one god less than you do (presuming you believe). And they are fine with it. Not indoctrinated, not compelled to read Dawkins or whatever, just taught a few basic facts about life which will hopefully guide them as they develop their autonomny from me and their mum.

    So, I believe the explanation he got after the dog passed was very much called for. He might have learned something very valuable from it. The notion of telling him that there is a something else there serves no purpose from what I can see. It would only be for my good if I believed it, which I don't, and not for his.

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  8. I can understand why someone might feel that using the death of an animal to explain the death of a human sounds a little callous, but we as humans use animals in lots of ways to help mankind survive, Guide Dogs, Search and Rescue, and many more very important roles to ensure our well being, but most of all we use animals in our daily diet and to achieve this particular treat we the human kill the animal.
    Hopefully this family pet died from a natural dog ailment rather than some man made problem , so why not use his/her passing to help explain to a small boy a very important lesson in life .
    Great piece AM

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  9. Mackers,
    We don't always get it right with our kids and sadly we can't shield them from every eventuality.
    Swiper was a part of his life and like all concerned he will lament his passing. It's just when you see their tears you think, 'Oh God no!!' well not in your house lol but sometimes reality just has to be that.

    I raised Kevin to believe all that I was taught to believe in terms of religion but it wasn't for him.

    This was a great piece about a dog that was clearly loved and the lost felt and that's all any of us can hope for irrespective of what we believe.

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  10. Thanks to all who commented on this so far.

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  11. From Mick Browne

    That was a great piece about Swiper.

    Really nice. I'm mad about the dogs too as you know so it was up my street.

    But that guy Niall is a plank. Correct me, but has he had a bee in his bonnet about your (non) beliefs over 'God' before? And the way he kept coming back to it with added exclamation marks was indicative he was angry over it, however he tried lamely to hide it.

    Nothing spoilt it but he did show up the dictatorship of the religious alright. I believe so YOU FUCKING HAVE TO AS WELL !!!!!!!!!

    Ur explanation to Niall was perfectly rational. It spelt out the reality rather than the make believe guff. So arrogant to think because he believes it that u must and must indoctrinate others too.

    I know a guy who found God late in life. Now he uses him to berate and dictate every bit as much as he did all our lives. Doesn't make him a better person, just bitter in a different way.

    And where's the Christian teaching in that? My bollix.

    Anyway, got to go and feed the big dog (and I don't mean me. I'm on a diet. up to 18 stones). Beat that.

    18 stones? fuck me. that's hectic.

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  12. Mick,

    don't think he is particularly religious, not that I am aware of. He gave out to me once before about letting my daughter watch a show about a man dying in the Dignitas clinic in Switzerland. And he tells me he is not lecturing me on how to bring up my kids! Not really sure he has convinced me about that claim.

    But, we all have our opinions. And an opinion different to my own is hardly going to annoy me.

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  13. Niall, what was the dark Hughes is a false idol comment all about?

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  14. Anthony, have you ever considered calling a dog 'Dog' like Rooster Cogburn's in True Grit? I had a cat once and i called it 'cat'..He didn't mind...

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  15. Frankie,

    we had a cat in Belfast just called 'big Cat'.

    The strangest name of all was for a budgie we had in the cages - Tin of Beans

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  16. “perhaps it ruined it for you but then it wasn't written for you. It was written for me. It doesn't seem to have ruined it for others.”
    AM
    Sorry, unlike dogs I’m not biting. Also, I wasn’t implying that you should have explained to your son that there was some other spiritual end to life…that is not what I’m trying to say here. All I was asking was, was it really necessary to make a lesson out if it? Was it really necessary to talk about the finality of life at such an emotional moment?
    Also, like you I have had a very close call with one of my sons while on holiday – I watched him almost drown in a swimming pool when aged 4, he slipped through a rubber ring in the deep end and it all happened in the blink of an eye…..I’ll never forget seeing him under the water with his hands held up grasping for the surface, never….through instinct I jumped in and managed to pull him to safety….he was fine and returned to the water after a few minutes…kids, eh!…he didn’t realise what was happening…..I didn’t set him down and tell him God was watching and saved him nor did I tell him that that was an invaluable lesson in how valuable and finite life is….I simply hugged him close. And I’m not telling you how to bring up your kids at all. I gave out about letting your daughter watch such a programme as inappropriate for her age at that time, not attacking your parenting skills…I must have hurt you with that one for you to retain that memory so I apologise…sort of dispels your remark about a difference of opinion not going to annoy you….sometimes I forget that your human!

    David Higgins
    The false idol claim about the Dark Hughes….have you not heard about the new diety?

    Mick Browne
    But that guy Niall is a plank.
    Thanks Mick, really appreciate that. Oh, can you lend me your crayons and colouring in-book?

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  17. Niall,

    was it really necessary to make a lesson out if it? Was it really necessary to talk about the finality of life at such an emotional moment?

    Really necessary, no. Beneficial, yes.

    Your horrible experience (mine wasn’t near that traumatic) with your son was handled differently. At 4 the type of explanation I gave my son at 8 might have been lost and your child would not have benefited from it.

    But if an opportunity arises to teach our children something that they may benefit from, then I see no reason why not to go for it.

    And I'm not telling you how to bring up your kids at all. I gave out about letting your daughter watch such a programme as inappropriate for her age at that time, not attacking your parenting skills...

    Parenting skills which are inappropriate none the less! Playing it both ways.

    I must have hurt you with that one for you to retain that memory

    Didn’t hurt me at all as there was absolutely nothing offensive in it, just a difference of opinion. I found it a curious opinion but not in any way upsetting. Pretty much as I find the opinion you express here.

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  18. Am,
    Good to know that you had a cat called 'big cat"..a lot of people thought when I called my cat 'cat'..it was silly. Personally, i don't think it would have made any difference to his life if I had of called if fluffy, twinkle or other...

    Considering this is a doggie type thread (and a parental one of sorts)..My sons nickname is 'mutt' (he's a half breed<--half irish, half french). And when he started primary school, i told his teacher if he steps out of line, give him a slap on his backside. She said she wasn't allowed. I told her, I'd back her in front of judge. I was tired of telling him twenty times that A, B & C are out of bounds and don't touch X, Y & Z..sometimes he wouldn't listen..Like I said after explaining twenty times why he couldn't do what I asked him..I wouldn't explain a 21st time. he had my hand across his butt. he learnt quick..

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  19. Niall,

    The false idol claim about the Dark Hughes….have you not heard about the new diety?


    I am of the impression that the new diety is none other than Gerry Adams (he even has a beard like God)...If you take time to go into the vortex of TPQ or go back the future and read The Blanket, you'll quickly discover that not only have Brendan Hughes friends & comrades nipped in the bud any idea of elevating him to even a demi god status but Brendan himself knocked that idea on the head himself with his funeral arragements. A simple look at how he was 'laid to rest' dispels that myth.

    if you have time.. read this

    "I doubt somehow if Brendan Hughes would appreciate a crowd of us gathering in his name. He was often the subject of attention but not its seeker. And he was suspicious of many aspects of commemoration culture, thinking that it was the past being manipulated for the purpose of plagiarising authenticity for the present."

    Doesn't sound like someone who wanted to be thought of as a God.

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  20. Niall, i still don't understand your comment. Brendan Hughes is highly regarded for his military successes in d coy through to his honesty in peacetime. Someone as popular as Brendan could have had an easy life post gfa if he followed the party line instead he said what was in his heart, i think that's got to be admired.
    Having said that i don't think anyone holds what Brendan said as sacrosanct or worships him. He is just well respected i don't understand your problem with that.

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  21. AM
    This could go on and on and on……I disagree with that particular aspect of your story as I have already stated, I think it was unnecessary and I also felt it inappropriate for a child to watch that programme irrespective who’s child she is…..you have expressed a difference of opinion…


    Frankie,
    Unfortunately what happens after death is beyond the deceased’s control irrespective of what they may have asked for in life. I find it difficult to place accolades and recognitions on people at that level from the Republican movement, Adams crowd or not, for very few have proved to be anything more than disappointing, egotistical and self-serving, all to varying degrees…I only met Hughes once and he fitted right in to that category above…very disappointing…..
    Tom McFeeley (Nailbomb) blatantly exemplifies this also with his claim to be British to save his bankruptcy…past glories count for shit….
    And so when people gather to worship the Dark Hughes I won’t be among them….there are too many gods already in the world…no need for another one.

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  22. From Mick Browne

    niall no, they're mine and i'm not letting you play. i shan't i shan't i shan't.

    here's my point - there is a theme to your critiques of mackers and carrie (they can spk or not for themselves) but it revolves or centres on your inability to allow him to have his own views on religion/faith.

    i found you were pursuing an agenda, which is out of place, at least in this instance. how they raise their kids and what they tell them is up to them.

    i don't mind your faith, assuming from your posts that you hold one. i don't mind any faith, kept to one's self.

    but i do mind when someone takes every bleeding opportunity to come on moralising about it.

    how did you manage to insert your perceived take of mackers' perceived take on dawkins into the story about a dead pet? i wish someone had said to me as they have said to ronan about life not being a rehearsal instead of filling me with the purgatory/heaven/hell crapola.

    to me you were imposing a theme (aka banging a busted drum) that wasn't approp. simple as.

    to me, and this is a rough view, faith stems from and grows from the experience of the individual. which is why i reject organised religion, at least in the western european models and probably beyond.

    stick to the story/issue (which in this case was about a pet and developed from there relating to their family).

    don't play the man, play the ball. if you do, you'll get tackled yourself.

    and get your own crayons, i'm not sharing. dearie me.

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  23. niall,
    I am sure Brendan was gutted he disappointed you, but hey life goes on. I find it a bit funny somebody accuses people of being self serving, egotistical then in the same breath talks about people disappointing him. the show's not all about your opinions.

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  24. Niall,
    Have you dyslexia? I am trying to join the dots between a simple story about a dog and god..

    Unfortunately what happens after death is beyond the deceased’s control irrespective of what they may have asked for in life

    When I die I am making sure I am going be cremated. I don't want to buried and one day a worm decides to feast on me. So in one respect I have control over what happens to me before I die. But if heaven or other exists I reckon Petey will say "Frankie, I've let bigger wankers than you in..and if you see Gabe, tell him, I'll cover his shift tomorrow".

    As for Brendan Hughes. I never met the man. But from what I've read about him, listened to his interviews on youtube, he doesn't come across like you have described him. When did you meet him? How long where you in his company for?

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  25. Mick Browne
    “here's my point - there is a theme to your critiques of mackers and carrie (they can spk or not for themselves) but it revolves or centres on your inability to allow him to have his own views on religion/faith.”

    Nothing could be further from the truth. And if you read what I wrote you should be able to comprehend that. I objected to his…..fuck, I’ve said this so many times I can’t be bothered repeating it again…just read my comments without the Jesus blinkers on.

    “i found you were pursuing an agenda, which is out of place, at least in this instance. how they raise their kids and what they tell them is up to them.”

    I’m not pursuing any agenda nor am I telling them how to raise their kids…..is that clear enough….by the way, I never mentioned Carrie and neither did Mackers.

    “i don't mind your faith, assuming from your posts that you hold one. i don't mind any faith, kept to one's self.”

    Mick, Mick, Mick…..are you taking the piss with this comment? Read your own comments for fucks sake!

    “but i do mind when someone takes every bleeding opportunity to come on moralising about it.”

    I never moralised about any aspect of my ‘faith’ as you put it, and I dare you to point out in any of my comments where I did?

    I have no hidden agenda nor any wish to impose anything on anyone. I gave a point of view which you have berated and insulted me for expressing and to which I returned the favour. I have absolutely no intention of dictating to Mackers what way he should bring his kids up….I only expressed what I did and how I felt that his comment came across to me. He is right in stating that it didn’t ruin it for others as no-one else has expressed that but that doesn’t mean that I have no right to comment. For instance, Frankie has stated that smacking his child is acceptable to him yet no-one has commented on this. So are we to infer Mick that you find smacking kids acceptable but if anyone should mention God to them then that is just unacceptable and to clarify, I’m not expressing my ‘faith’ here. Frankie, I’m not getting at you here either or dictating to you how to raise your kids - just using your comments to make a point.


    David
    I never said it was! As for Hughes, why would he be gutted he disappointed me?

    Frankie
    You’ll find that the public persona is as far from reality as it gets. I met him around 20 years ago and the reason I never forget it was that he talked through another person to me yet I was standing in front of him……..like meeting so many others like him, maybe I should have knelt.

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  26. So Niall, you met Brendan Hughes once 20yrs ago..

    How often in life have you met someone and your first impressions was "fcuk, what a twat". Only to meet them again under different circumstances and thought..."hey, i was wrong, he's a good man. I was wrong the first time"..

    How long was the encounter for? Was it a chance encounter, social gathering or a republican type function?

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  27. Niall,
    I just don't understand your grievances here. You seem to be having a go at AM on how he raises his kids, even though you say your not. You seem to be having a go at people who admire Brendan Hughes because what? you met him and didn't like him? so what?
    Niall, you are entitled to your opinions, but i don't see how having a go at a dead man or questioning a mans parenting skills is that productive. Maybe you just like noising people up, you encourage a response i'll give you that.

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  28. Frankie,
    The time we met was long enough. Having experienced the same attitude with others of his caliber on several occasions I thought that once was more than enough to form my opinion...the others never changed no matter how many occasions we met so why would he?

    David,
    I didn't question AM's parenting skills, I expressed an opinion about an aspect of his story which involved his son, and I expressed an opinion about a programme and the morality of allowing a child to watch it which was his daughter and to which AM responded. As for Hughes I think I have made that clear enough and cut the crap about having a go at a dead man....what a ridiculous thing to say...will you apply that to Dennis Donaldson?
    Now, as I said to AM, this is going to go on and on and on.....so let's draw to a conclusion..David you have your opinions based on your experiences and I have mine based on my experiences sometimes they will agree and other times they won't..this is one of the won't times...

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  29. Niall,
    fair enough, no point going on about it, i still think think your arguments are a little bit bewildering but then you obviously think the same about me. agree to disagree and all that.

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  30. Niall,

    You are all over the place and exactly nowhere religion has a bad habit of wee white lies after all Santa Claus shows up on Jesus’ fictitious birthday.

    I don’t see the need for the dramatics after all there are those who will believe in god no matter what and there are those who seek an alternative to the biblical narrative.
    Why impose the god angle when you obviously have no trouble in teaching your children to dislike a man because you deem him a false idol.

    Brendan Hughes didn’t come across as high and almighty a common man with an interesting narrative in republican history but one that should not define the man.
    You seem a tad confused he belonged to republicanism something he put higher value in than his own life hardly the action of a false idol.

    I am not sure what a Sponge Bob is but it is probably the equivalent of Dougal and the Magic Roundabout so no wonder your kids are smart enough to want to watch that instead of listening to you tell them about some man being a false idol.
    That would probably make sense if this was the year 36 A D.

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